Is there any charity that exists to help gay partners and families of deployed military men and women? I am interested in possibly donating or creating a charity specifically for gay families whose partners are deployed in the military, or even in certain situations just need assistance while still here in the US. I have found the military is very generous in the support they provide spouses and guyren of heterosexual soldiers, but there is not private organization set up to help gay military families in need. Can anyone help me learn about options to the gay or ex-gay military members when met with financial hardships, or even just needing support groups and such? |
| None that I've heard of. I would guess that most families with gay service members wouldn't dare risking their loved ones career in the military. Remember Don't Ask Don't Tell is still the policy of all U.S. Military branches. If it ever came out that a soliders family memebers applied for help through this type of organization, that soldier would be thrown out of the military. It's an honorable idea, but probably a little ahead of it's time. |
How do I meet Gay military men? For various reasons, I am interested in marrying a GAY military man (I am a straight female). With the whole "don't ask, don't tell" policy, how would I go about finding these men?
Is the rule that homosexual people in the military aren't allowed to tell others IN the military? Or is it that they are not allowed to discuss it even with civilians while they are serving? |
Haha, that's one of the most unique questions I've seen on here. Yes, there are gay men in the military, but they're usually quite good at hiding it (or at least toning it down.) The matter isn't discussed in his military life, or only to a few trusted friends. He might feel more comfortable making civilian friends that he knows have nothing to do with the military and therefore won't call him out. Though finding a gay military man willing to marry you (for benefits I assume) might take a little effort, might I suggest....
Go to a gay bar near a military post. I go to one near Norfolk naval base all the time with my gay friends. You'd be surprised to walk in and see a sea of high and tight haircuts, the dead giveaway of a military man.
Good luck, haha. |
Who would you rather solute: a gay military soldier or a homophobic military soldier? I'd salute a gay military soldier over an anti-gay military soldier. |
| Yup. Homophobia is no different than racism. |
How is fair for an openly Gay Military man to shower with straight GIs? at the same time, will the military be forced to build gay showers and bathrooms now? |
| I was a Marine for 7 years. I never lived under the delusional thinking that any of the men in the shower were not gay. We depend on folks for their training and accountability under pressure and in some cases under fire. I could care less what he does in his personal life. |
Where can I meet other gay military guys? Where can I go to meet other gay military guys? I live in Maryland near DC and just don't know what places I can go to meet other gay military guys. I don't want to go to a gay club, just looking to meet other discreet military guys online if that's possible. Anyone know where I can go to meet other discreet gay guys in the military? Thanks. |
| Adam4Adam, ManHunt, GayWatch, CraigsList.... any of the standard gay meet markets. |
How do you know if someone in the military is gay? I am in the military and I wanna know how to tell if other military guys are gay? |
| The only intellegent answer to this question has to be "soap-on-a-rope". |
Would a straight person join a gay military and expose themselves to gays? With the new laws of acceptance of gays in the military, do you think gays will start joining and straight people will avoid the military because they don't want to expose themselves to gays? |
| Do you think "gays will start joining"? Wake up, gay people are already in the military and have been for a long time. |
Now that it is legal to be in the military and gay will the Military have millions more recruits? White House/Pentagon: Openly gay people should be allowed to serve in the US military, the country's top commander has said.
Adm Mike Mullen told a Senate hearing Gays should be allowed to serve with honor. |
| Yeah, neither a million more or less. This will have no effect I think. I think most homosexuals who wanted to serve would regardless. Those who would not have served but no will, will be offset by the small portion of people who don't want to serve in the military with openly gay people. So I think it will be a wash, or a very, very slight increase. |
Is Gay Marriage Recognized In the Military? Now That Gays are allowed to openly join the military will gay marriage be recognized as well? There are benefits that member of the military qualify for only if they are married (ie: Housing situations, salary changes, allowances, traveling expenses for loved ones etc.) Will a married gay couple be entitled to the same benefits as the heterosexual married couples of the military? |
| No it is not. The DOD is a federal organization and as such, is bound by the Federal Defense of Marriage Act, which does not allow the federal government to recognize same sex marriage. The repeal of DADT will not change this, it will simply allow gay military personnel to serve openly without penalty, it will not allow them to claim their same sex partners as military dependents or receive military benefits that come with marriage. Even if the couple is considered married in one of few states that recognizes the same sex marriage, the military will not recognize the marriage unless the marriage is recognized by federal law, it has no concern with anything states do. |
Why are women allowed to serve in US military, but gay men have to keep it quiet? I know there is "Don't ask, don't tell" policy as far as gays concerned. Why is it that women can get in the military, but gay men are seen as a problem? Both women and gay men are seen as feminine. I don't understand. |
| women and gay men are completely different! first of all women don't go to the showers with guys during training or share living quarters. why would a bunch of straight men want to know there's a gay guy taking showers with them? that's why its don't ask don't tell. ur gonna make the boys uncomfortable and possibly start fights if they think they're getting looked at the wrong way |